About 10 years ago there was this big push to “find your tribe!”. Your tribe consisted of, “like minded” people. I spent a lot of energy trying to find my tribe, I was always disappointed. I tried churches, para-church organizations, I tried my neighborhood, I tried a bunch of things. I finally settled down, rode my horse, played my piano and got really comfortable with myself.
What dawned on me, is that this kind of thinking is what got society in the mess it is in at the present time. Somehow we started believing that a “tribe” would consist of “like minded” people.
Maybe a tribe should consist of a group of individuals that have different opinions about all kinds of things. A group of people that respects each other in spite of differing opinions. A group that values diversity and individuality. A place that nurtures the odd ball and embraces the lonely.
I think my idea today, unlike my idea 10 years ago, is that a tribe is a group of people who love you as the unique person God created you to be. A group of people who don’t try to change your ideas but respect the fact that you have a different take on the situation. People who don’t demonize another person with which they disagree with comments like , “if you did your research….”, or “…. the Bible says….”, or the simple phrase “that’s dumb!”.
This kind of demonizing plays out in the political arena all the time.
I have watched political signs go up that hate and want to impeach whatever President is in office. I have watched the blatant disrespect for the office of President become a personal pride thing and I wonder if those people will ever stop the hating anyone who belongs to the opposing political party.
I purpose that every President has a journey they could share that could inspire, empower and enable possibility in the future. We could be inspired by their stories if we would allow ourselves to listen. They have obtained one of the most prestigious, powerful seats in our world. Notice I did not say anything about if we agreed or disagreed with their politics.
I remember looking at a shelf at the library full of biographies, when I was a kid, I loved reading about John F. Kennedy, Thomas Jefferson, Ronald Reagan, Martin Luther King jr.,and many other historical leaders.
I wonder if our world would look different if we took the time to listen and learn each other’s stories. If we took the time to learn and appreciate the people who are living in our time. I personally would rather be known while I am alive. Maybe famous people would as well.
In a way, I am still looking for my tribe. But I have found a few straggled, tired souls, that allow me to be myself. We tell our stories, we speak our opinions, we rarely agree…..and so the tribe building begins!